To Forgive and to Forget.

Somebody told me once that we have to forgive but not to forget, but to remember that one time in our lives we were able to put everything behind us that made us move on to become a better person...

We are human, prone to frailty and impulsiveness bring us to our create our own sorrows. at times, when nothing else matters but the desires of our hearts; we get ourselves into situations we do not think of. we just dive into it, because it looks promising, inviting and tempting.

At first, it feels good. it makes us high, euphoric and it seems like it's never going to end. we are blinded, we do not look anywhere, we're focus on one. we're like horses with patches in their eyes,they cannot look on different directions, just straight ahead; when the reigns are pulled, that is the time when it means they have to move to the left or right maybe.

When we're hurt and deeply wounded emotionally, we tend to get back at the person in any way we can. we avenge and take every step to win. however, come to think of it, we still end up losing. merely, because we are filled with hatred and ill feelings towards others who have caused us pain. And I do not think carrying heavy loads in our lives is an option if we want to live in contentment.

The Very Essence of Letting Go

In your hands is a very precious creation so fragile, so valuable that if you keep on holding it, it either stay or fall apart. But you loved this creature so much that letting it go would be comparable to letting go of your life as well, so much that sometimes you wished it would always be there, so much that you tend to be selfish so as you could make it stay for as long as you want. 

There comes a time in our lives we chance upon  someone "so nice" and "almost perfect" and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attached to that person (sometimes even without realizing it!). This feeling soon becomes a part of our daily lives and eventually guzzles our thoughts and actions to the extent that we dagged it as one of those "too good to be true" things. Then in our desperate attempt to get closer, our efforts are still futile and we still feel sorry for ourselves. 

but still... we wanted it all... we are hoping for a hopeless silver lining... too much. 

One person once said, "Never let your heart run your life. As much as you can always be sensible  and let your mind speak for itself.Try to listen not merely on what your feelings are evoking but more importantly listen to reason as well. " Letting go of someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow the person to find his own happiness without expecting him to come back. 

Letting go is not just letting the other person free "in the real sense of it," but it is also setting yourself free from all animosities, hostility and resentments that was long kept in your heart. You have to let go because the bitterness often diminishes the strength and weakens the little hope left, making our lives more miserable than ever. 

If I lose you today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. If I lose love that doesn't mean I failed in love, probably it was another mismatch in heaven...